to:

i'm sorry for ignoring you.
i'm sorry for disappointing you.
i'm sorry for frustrating you.
i'm sorry for not replying to your messages.
i'm sorry for not loving you right.

i'm sorry for not being the person you thought i was.
i never dare to say what i really feel.
i'm always thinking of how pointless it is to tell you about how i truly feel
since it's something i have to fix within myself.
it's a fight within me, that even i myself is confused about.
i don't even understand myself
how will i be able to understand what's going on with other people?

it's funny of how people can create such great masks;
hiding all of their feelings
even being so convincing that people don't even know that they're hiding.
the truth is buried.
it seems as if the facade they put on is the real them.
it's amazing of how people do that.

i'm sorry for always being ignorant.
i'm sorry for being selfish.
i'm sorry for being an introvert and always keeping to myself.
i'm sorry for not being as great as her.

when you think you've gone through the worst,
but yet another earthquake strikes you.
you think that old scars are just reminders.
these scars are about to make new friends.

she's not as perfect as you thought she was.
she has flaws
which she keeps to herself.
you think the real person lies before you?
you thought wrong.

burning out.
feeling numb.
sharp knives.
go on.
can't.

i'm sorry for being unreachable.
i'm sorry for being so far away.
i'm sorry for having so many imperfections.
i'm sorry for being so weak.
you don't like how i act? me neither.

finding

everyone knows it's a new year. 

everyone also knows that usually in new years people want to start anew, start fresh, forget about 2015. 

yesterday, the 26th of january my teacher talked to me, asked me how I was. How i've been feeling, how my relationships with different people were, if i was happy and all that. i told her in all honesty that i was happy. i am happy. i found my happiness once again when me and my family flew back to our homeland, and since then i've never been better. 

when i was there in the philippines i realised that i still had family. the whole of late 2015 i felt alone, even though i knew there were people there looking out for me. 2015 was just a really hard year for me. it was all right at first, but everything went downhill when March hit. 

i started getting lost, spiritually, mentally, emotionally. slowly i didn't know what i was supposed to do. so many things were happening at the same time, and as someone who sees everything as a huge huge picture, i couldn't take it. 

during my mid year exams i was so bothered by nonsensical stuff and small matters that actually didn't matter at all. my priorities weren't set right at all, even though i had a friend who constantly tried to remind me to set it right. i was so confused and i didn't know what to do. my family noticed the huge drop in my results, and i used "stressed" as an excuse. the real reason was because i was just simply lost. 

i felt alone in school even though i had great friends, and all i looked forward to was going to church. while doing so i failed to realise that i was wasting so much of my time just waiting during the weekdays. 

it's hard to believe since people see me as a really extroverted person. i express my feelings clearly, which includes starting a blog. 

i was still puzzled and i had no goal in mind at all even after the stab i got when i received my results slip of my mid-year exams.

times got rougher between May to August. My CA2 results were also really bad, even though i kind of already realised what was going on, that i wasn't setting my priorities right. Despite the fact that i attempted to change my phone to a smaller and "less smart" one in July, and i attempted to change my ways, i was still depressed. 

i even remember there was this one incident where i just walked into the classroom all glum and emotionless, and when my chemistry teacher walked in and started teaching, my emotions started building up so rapidly. thank god i was sitting alone that day. one of my classmates behind me offered to share her textbook with me that day since i forgot to bring mine. she suddenly noticed the weird aura surrounding me and asked if i was okay out of the blue. i suddenly started crying in front of her. lolsi hahahahahhahhahaahhahah. but i couldnt explain to her what i was feeling since even i myself didn't know what was going on inside me. 

Times were especially rough during August. 

so many fights were going on inside of me, my feelings and emotions got the better of me most of the time and i was hopeless and weak. i knew i needed a wake up call. my mom realised the change in my attitude towards studying and talked to me, asked me what was going on in my life. even my teacher noticed, and the only excuse i could give them was "I'm really stressed. there's alot of things going on now." (things referred to school stuff, like dance and house captain stuff). 

well of course i was also panicking. i was scared that i'd need to retain since i was practically failing almost everything. 

soon i realised that i just had to do something. i studied my butt off, i suddenly had so much drive in me, i swept all of my troubles under the carpet for the time being, and i just studied. i was constantly going to the library during weekends, making mindmaps, staying back in the canteen to do work. it was really hard especially when all the bad thoughts were just creeping at the back of your mind. 

i used studying as a distraction because i really needed one. i was scared that if i didn't have anything to do i'd be swallowed up by my thoughts again. i borrowed countless books from the public library to occupy myself during my free time,

though it was a different story during the unearthly hours. 

after my exams all my hardwork paid off, my teacher was proud of me, my parents were as well. i managed to pass most of my subjects with a decent score and i felt so much better. 

october was kind of a good month, kind of not. i mended ties, fixed most of my problems, stopped slashing and i felt so much more confident. i didn't really need to worry too much. 

november was a blur. november was just like a filler month. it was the month where i didn't really do much other than watch korean dramas, animes, went out on my own. it was confirmation month as well and i felt so enriched and good about myself. i was just waiting for time to pass. 

december was the bomb. we flew back and i felt like i was in heaven the whole time, even though there were some problems along the way. mostly being with my old friends and family, especially my cousins, made me feel really HOME. being with all of them made me feel so loved and accepted, and they all made me realise that i was never alone. they were all just  2,355km away from me, nonetheless still there for me. 

i learned how to love all over again. 

i found myself again. 

i found the true happy me. 

it's a brand new year and my teacher asked me how i was feeling, how i was coping and even pointed out my more matured thinking.

"A lot better. i realised that it's a new year and it's time for a change. i realised that the me before was way too sensitive. i started seeing things in a different light. going home was literally heaven. i feel so much better, so much more refreshed and so much more enlightened."

i know times will still be rough, it already has even though it's just January. I know it will get tougher since this year is different for us millennium babies, and it's hard even now when you know that your guardian angel is all the way in philippines. long distance relationships(not literally, im single lol) are really hard, but we'll all pull through. 

we will all pull through. you will too. 

@maryxtinylamb

the last day

it's been four years months since i last wrote a blog post. keke.

hello again fellow motherf readers, it's a brand new year, the year 2016. in another six years japan will be launching their nerve gear and sword art online will be killing 2,000 of their first players lol kidding.

it's a new year.
but before i touch on the new year i'd like to reminisce some of the lovely events that happened from september to december 2015.

september was full of studying and chiong-ing because of end-of-year examinations.

october was full of drama.

november was also full of drama. watching drama, korean drama AHAHA.

december was just pure fun and games and being in a completely different world for two weeks, forgetting about all the troubles and misunderstandings and school sh- stuff* because we finally flew back to pinoyland and had a reunion with our wonderful lovely cousins.

we're back to january with a bright (not really) new year ahead of us. time to make new friends and forget the old ones who may not have treasured you as much as you did to them. it's a new year, go easy on yourself. we've learnt many lessons during 2015 and as we grow a year older, we'll also be growing a year wiser. move on from the things that hurt you, learn from it and become a stronger person this year.

this is a short one but i'd like to end off with a quote that my sister lives by that she set it as her wallpaper (hi sis thanks for sharing your motto),

"Happiness is a choice." 
so are your actions.

have a great year ahead love!


@maryxtinylamb

to hold on or to let go?

everyone will soon reach this point where you have to make a decision of either holding on or letting go to something, be it friendship or relationship, material things or pets. one day your pet's gonna die and you have to face it. what would you do then?

I'm that type of person that never lets go.
i dislike change, i dislike the breaking of bonds and friendship because everything about those are just so meaningful. i get fearful when people change. i get fearful when friends start to drift away, especially if they're someone really really dear to you. no more everyday texts, no more morning messages, no more skype calls, etc.

i admit that i have tried holding on to friendships, afraid to let go. so afraid that sometimes the friendship just seems forced. you tell yourself "i wait, because it's worth it." believe me, i tell myself this every single day. friendships are so unstable and unpredictable, you never know when everything will just shatter and be forgotten.

same goes for relationships. let's say you have these two friends. they've been dating for almost 3 years, and suddenly they just break up out of the blue. even as a friend or a bystander, you'll feel really bad and shocked, being like "what?". You'd think that they would never ever breakup since they had such an unbreakable bond. but what happened in between? only they will know.

this leads to decision making of either holding on or letting go. you may have been holding onto something until you tire yourself out, leading yourself to helplessly let go. Or, vice versa, where you let go too early without even trying. Then you realise that you let go too easily, leading you to holding onto it again.

it really depends. sometimes if the other party doesn't make any effort, maybe it's really just time to let your hands free from the rope, and i should be telling this to myself as well. when you find yourself doing most of the work in a relationship or a friendship, it may be an orange light dear. if you see yourself struggling, if you see yourself getting blue ticked or even grey ticked, well it's time for a talk. a talk with the person about your struggles in the friendship and how it feels strained (unless you're okay with it.)

i have a friend that used to say, "it takes two hands two clap." friendships are forever shaky and unstable, but it really depends if you share the load and have mutual feelings towards each other. if not, i tell you nothing will work out. of course there are others where hope is clear in friendship. when the two parties just never give up on each other. that's definitely something worth keeping.
i know i have unstable friendships going on now, but they're somehow still surviving because we're all still holding on.


at the end of the day it's still your friendship, your judgment. to hold on or to let go, it's all your decisions. goodnight :)


@maryxtinylamb
 

flawed

** warning; this will all be words and talk. i'm not some fashion blogger with a million pictures so if you're disappointed that there's no pictures then you can stop reading here.


i've heard so many stories about people gossiping behind my back about how attention-seeking i am, or that i'm way too clingy.

i know alot of things. i know myself. i know what people think of me. the person that knows me the most is obviously myself. i know that i'm clingy, i know that i'm sensitive, i know i depend on people too much, and i especially know that i'm attention-seeking. if you think so too, judge me all you want. i don't want to hear any of it. changed your view of me? i don't care. because i already know what kind of person i am. i know what i'm capable of and what i am not.

i crave attention and i'm clingy cause i'm always feeling lonely. but you might be wondering "wtf you have so many friends how many more do you want to not feel lonely?" it's not the number of friends you have, but if your friends actually understand how you actually feel. yeah, i may have a ton of friends but it takes the right ones to fully understand you and be there for you.

i'm sensitive. because i just am. i'm that kind of person. if you can't take my shit, if you can't take my seriousness you can walk away. no one is stopping you. sometimes i take the lightest jokes too seriously. i can be easily offended. it has happened before.

bliz called me sensitive, that's why he gave up on me.
i didn't want the same thing to happen again.
guess i made it happen again.

"you can't be sensitive, you must be sensible," a friend said to me. i admit i can be really insensible sometimes. i'm sometimes unaware of what's going on cause i'm too focused on myself and my weaknesses, my own problems and mental instability. i'm always trying to be, i sometimes try to forget about myself and forget about all my worries just to focus on someone and help him or her.

i know my own flaws, and i know that i'm way too broken and dependent on people. i know that i'm always craving for attention, that's why i'm always needing someone. it's not a matter of just saying that you'll be there, but also if you will actually listen, give advice, feel empathy and not sympathy.


honestly i forgot why i even made a point to write this in the first place. staring into space, thinking of what happened on 16/5. i went off topic again, i guess.